When I was in high school, I dated a boy who was a little bit older than me. I was 16 when we started dating, and he was 22. I know what a lot of people say about dating older guys, but to this day I don’t think that is true in every instance. He was a very nice boy, he was not only "out for one thing", and we had a good relationship for 3 years. We simply grew apart when I was going to college. He was done with college, I wanted to go to college to succeed, focus on my studies, etc. So that’s how our relationship ending. It wasn’t hostile, and I was sad about it at the time, but looking back on it, I’m glad it worked out that way. We are just both totally different now. People make a lot of judgments about relationships with age differences, but it isn’t true in every instance. I was mature enough to handle myself, he was a nice person, but we did encounter the fact that we were in different stages of our lives. I was ready to accomplish more, he was more ready to settle down. So that’s that story.
Anyway, onto the question. Years and years have passed, most of which we were not communicating to each other, simply because I was so busy with school. But I’ve gotten married, I’ve settled down, and things are perfect between my husband and I. Well this ex got into contact with me. It turns out he is engaged to a really nice woman, and I’m happy for the both of them. I would say I have been back in contact with my ex for about six months now. We haven’t seen each other or anything like that, but he does call me from time to time. I don’t call him, just because I’m the person that rarely calls other people, but he calls me maybe once a week or once every other week. We talk for like 30 minutes to an hour or something. Just stuff about them planning their wedding, how his fiance is doing, what’s up with their kids, etc. I swear to God, nothing at all bad/romantic/etc. I tell my husband everything, and he’s fine with it, because he trusts me and he’s present for most of the conversations, and he hears the chit chat between us.
I recently mentioned to my friend that he and I talked, it came up because they’re using the same wedding photographer, and she accused me of having an emotional affair, which is ridiculous. There are no romantic emotions there whatsoever. I don’t even make an effort to call him or anything, he just calls me, and I answer, and we talk about what’s going on with us. I mean, I’ve even talked to his fiance on the phone, she’s super nice.
So is this wrong or isn’t it? My friend thinks I’m an adulteress, but, come on, its been years, we are 4 adults, we are all honest about it, not sneaking around. We’ve even talked about getting together for a double date sometime soon! What is your opinion? Thanks, sorry so long.
